On Being Married

I've been thinking alot about being married and what that means to put another person before myself. It is probably the most unnatural thing on the planet.

Charlie and I very blessed to have wonderful role models in our parents who have been married over 70 years combined. My mom loves her school projects and my dad still enjoys hunting and fishing. My dad, being retired, has time to visit friends and family in Louisiana during the weekdays. They are both able to love each other completely and still be their own people. My mom leaves my dad little notes around the house to let him know she cares for him. He still brings her flowers and sweet reminders of his love for her.

Charlie's parents have one of the most beautiful relationships I've ever seen. They never hesitate to show affection or go out of their way to make their children...or just anyone who is around...feel special. It is inspiring to see two people so much in love after being together for over a quarter of a century.

One of the things I told Monsignor Mallet before Charlie and I got married over two years ago was that I wanted a marriage and not just a wedding. Looking back on our wedding day, it has been the days that followed that truly showed us what we're made of. Sure, nothing is perfect but here are a few things I have learned in my 33 months of marriage:

- it's okay to do your own thing with your friends

- it's okay to hang out together but still do your own thing

- who wins an argument is not as important as how you love the other person during the disagreement

- falling asleep together, waking up together and knowing you're exactly where you're meant to be

- even when you wake up with buffalo breath

- in fact winning an argument is the least important thing

- who knew we would still have tons to learn about each other 7 years later

- mid-afternoon snuggle sessions are pretty much the best thing in the universe

- the magic word is compromise

- knowing you are married to your best friend and love of your life is an amazing feeling